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Lotsa Hair!

When we were in Florida, someone said (in my hearing but not to me): "Danae has some serious nigga hair. When yall gone start perming it?"
I was a little annoyed to say the least. Danae is only 2 years old so no chemicals will be touching her hair ANY TIME SOON. But, I was also annoyed for another reason. Is something wrong with her hair texture? Yes, it's thicker than my hair and kinkier too. But, in my opinion, it's absolutely gorgeous. Her hair can do so many things: ponytails, afro puffs, cornrows, twist outs.
I want to raise my daughter to have a healthy self image. I want her to know that she is beautiful in her natural state, needing no changes or enhancements. I want her to know that her thick mop of curls are just as pretty as my curls and someone else's bone-straight hair. I don't want her to think that anything about her is a mistake or unmanageable.
Now, this is not my way of saying there is anything wrong with relaxing your hair. I just want to concentrate on her having healthy hair. And, when she's older she can decide for herself what to do with her hair. If she wants to stick with the natural, she can. If she wants to perm it, go for it.
In the meantime, please don't refer to my baby's hair as nigga hair. And, unless it's constructive criticism or helpful suggestions, keep the comments to yourself.

Comments

Anonymous said…
Amen!!!
Anonymous said…
Girl, that was so crazy. Why would anyone even say that. Danae has a nice grade of hair and just like you said, it is amazing what you can do with it. I do not blame you, I would be pissed too. You scared me a little though, I thought I was going to get a beat down myself.
Anonymous said…
Go on girl!!

Ayana
Anonymous said…
I completely agree with you.
1969 said…
New to your blog too....but we share a birthday so I will be back more often. As for this riculously ignorant comment.....Wow, I am speechless. Ignorance really is bliss.

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