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The Grass Ain't Always Greener

So, I was talking to one of my longtime friends recently. We've known each other since elementary school. Our conversation centered around wanting what you don't have vs. being satisfied with what you do have.

Anyway, this girl (let's call her A) was always THE girl. She was (and still is) one of the most beautiful women I know, both inside and out. She always encouraged her friends to be better and do better. She can make a Walmart outfit look like it came from Saks. When we were younger, A always had a boyfriend or several guys trying to be her boyfriend. Guys were always clamoring for her attention.

Currently, A is not married and has no kids. During our recent convo, she lamented about how she really thought she would have a husband and children by now. She feels like she'll never marry. As a matter of fact, a few years ago she sent me an email saying the same thing. I told her I'm going to keep it to read during my toast at her wedding.

A really wants a husband. But, her last few guy friends have been losers...excuse me...I meant LOSERS! One was dating her although he had a girlfriend and children in another apartment. Yes, this fool had two apartments. She fell for him hard and he broke her heart. There have been other losers too and I suggested that there must be something in them that she's attracting or subconsciously looking for. But now she has a new guy who seems to be wonderful. They've been dating for a very short time and she says it's hard for her to not want to rush things. She is, after all, on the brink of turning 32 and she says she can hear that biological clock tick, tick, ticking away.

She said she was thinking about how long I've been married and how I have (almost) 3 kids and our lives seem so far apart. However, when she talks about her life and travels and career accomplishments, I sometimes think about her the same way. You know, wondering how it would be to experience her life for a minute. This in no way means I don't treasure that which I have.

The whole point of this is that it can be so easy to look at someone else's life and wonder why yours didn't turn out the same way. Or, wonder if something is wrong with you. Or, wonder if you'll ever have that elusive all-American life. I think the best we can do is enjoy what we have to the fullest. The truth is there will always be someone wealthier, prettier, thinner, younger, more successful, etc. However, none of these things can truly make you happy because we'll always see someone with something that we might want.

Comments

Anonymous said…
I agree. We must make the best with what God gives us and be content and ambitious.

Red
Anonymous said…
So true, so true.


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