My dad came to visit us for Christmas. While he was here, he was saying how much Danae reminds him of me when I was a little girl. I wasn't surprised because she definitely has my attitude and a lot of my personality. But, I was surprised when he told me his reason. She's such a girlie girl. I was shocked because I'm not girlie at all. Then, he pulled out some pictures from when I was little. For some reason, this man always has random pictures with him but they're not in a photo album or anything. Anyway, in most of them I had on a dress and was playing with my dolls or my toy kitchen or something like that. I told him that was impossible because I always thought of myself as more of a tomboy.
So, what had happened was, I really was much more interested in feminine things. But, my mom kinda nipped that. She wasn't so girlie and couldn't relate and chose to ignore that part of me. When I was little, I used to get my hair done every other Saturday. I thought it was because my mom didn't want to have to deal with my hair. Turns out, I requested to start getting my hair done professionally at the ripe old age of 5 years. Guess what Danae requested to do for her 4th birthday? Yep, we're not so different after all.
The lesson here for me is to pay attention to my kids interests and not let my own interfere with that. Unless of course, they become interested in things that will be detrimental to themselves or others. But, we have to celebrate their uniqueness and find ways to help them explore those things that bring them pleasure.
So, what had happened was, I really was much more interested in feminine things. But, my mom kinda nipped that. She wasn't so girlie and couldn't relate and chose to ignore that part of me. When I was little, I used to get my hair done every other Saturday. I thought it was because my mom didn't want to have to deal with my hair. Turns out, I requested to start getting my hair done professionally at the ripe old age of 5 years. Guess what Danae requested to do for her 4th birthday? Yep, we're not so different after all.
The lesson here for me is to pay attention to my kids interests and not let my own interfere with that. Unless of course, they become interested in things that will be detrimental to themselves or others. But, we have to celebrate their uniqueness and find ways to help them explore those things that bring them pleasure.
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